Victims of Love

Since I arrived in Mexico, I've listened to the stories of my friends, the songs in the radio (maybe it is because I understand them without having to pay attention), watched tv... All I can see around is that people are victims of love.

I suffer if you are not here, I suffer because you are not this, that, what can I do to make you love me... If he/she was more this o less that...

It seems love is a strange external force working against them.
Why can they understand love is not a reaction? For me, Love is a creation process.

People think the other person, "makes something" so then they love him/her.
Then the power of loving comes from outside. From the one that "makes" things. They react. That is why they believe they can't "control it".

The other ilussion is that "the other" has to accomplish/cover your expectations. If you are: nice, kind, loving, smart... or if you were less jealous, selfish, etc. then, I love you.

On the first statement, I believe love is a decision, not a reaction.
I decide to love someone. With this perspective, I have the power of Love. It works for me, not against me. Because, I can always: a) keep my decision b) change it.
The value of ANY choice, is that I can always choose something else.

For me the strongest bond you can have with something [or someone] is conviction.
It is not because it is the only option available (then it would have no value, because there is nothing else to choose from), not because of fear, boredom, etc.
When something is done with self conviction, you will do it, against all odds.

On the second one, [if the other is more this, or less that] I believe what is the "ideal" for me may not work that well for the other. Obviously, we all are, do, and behave the way we think works best for us. (At least consciously) So, why does someone else have to change because the way he/she is doesn't work for me? She is like that. If I don't like it, the one with the problem it's me, not the other.

I think you can negotiate what you do, not who you are. I can try to be more punctual, polite, or not to respond in a nasty way. But I can't negotiate to be less affecionate, selfish or smart. That is part of who I am.
At the end of the day, people fall in love with someone for who he/she is!

For me, true love is the one that encourages the other to be more himself, instead of changing him/her.
Besides, love is unconditional, otherwise it is not love.

Nowadays I deeply love someone. More than I can remember. Why? Because I choose to do so.

When you live love as a creative process, when you recognize yourself as the source of love, you become empowered, and the act of loving turns you into a stronger person, instead of a victim.

Spring, sunshine and good bye to jet lag

I didn't remember the sun could be so bright.

I followed my brother's advice:
'Get a sunbath and forget about jet lag'
It works!
Now I am fresh as a lettuce, and beautifully tanned.
Super!

The 5 Commandments of the Traveller

1. You tried to honor your mother. You really tried. It’s just, survival. The morals she taught you are now as blurry as your vision. But your body is talking, and it’s it time to go to the public toilet and let go…

2. You will realise everything is relative: time zones, places, languages, currencies… There is only one thing permanent and omnipresent:
Mc Donalds. Can I have a Mc Flurry please?

3. You will always talk to your fellow passenger. You may get invited to Sicily to spend the summer, and party the next night with a bunch of handsome italians. Capisci?

4. You will always lift the window cover and look to the landscape. If you are lucky, you can be flying above Groenland, and take amazing pictures.

5. Last but not least: You will travel light. It is not nice to carry 60 kgs. of luggage yourself, specially when your family arrives late to pick you up. Where the fuck is the welcome mariachi??